Losers

This has been on my mind a lot lately because I see it so much where I live. I can't understand why an intelligent young woman would date a giant loser. By loser, I mean someone who blames all his problems on everyone and everything around him. Generally all around will not handle his own business(pay bills and such, child support) unless forced, even if it means getting locked up in jail. Self-centered and rude. Basically, just plain sucks, literally and figuratively.

This has gotten me kind of reflective on my own life causing me to look back on all my friendships both boyfriends and friends in general. I can't think of any that would fall under this category. I would never date or even associate with someone that couldn't handle their business unless I had to because my sister or brother was dating/married to them. Luckily my brother, who is married, did not marry a loser, she's focused and knows what she wants, which is fabulous for him because he is the same way. My other brother has never brought home a loser either. My older sister, now that's another story.

Her boyfriend now is a real jerk. Did he fill out his own job applications? No, he did not. She did it for him. Did he go out and actively search for a job? No, he only went because my sister took him. Kind of makes it look like he's only even gotten a job because she made him. Otherwise he'd be happy to just sit around on his butt and do nothing. Not to mention the fact that they have a new born baby. I have heard him on numerous occasions yell at my nephew to shut up. On one occasion when my sister was at work the baby started crying at 6:30pm and did not stop crying until my sister returned home at 10:00pm. He never came down to the kitchen to get a bottle, I never heard a sound out of that room except the crying. Just recently Tammy_Tyree was here at my house while my sister and I were at work and he was watching the baby upstairs. She told me that she was here for more than 5 hours and the baby cried the whole time. He repeatedly yelled at the baby to shut up, and he yelled shut the fuck up. Eventually he turned up the TV so loud that she could hear it perfectly clearly. At one point she said that he came downstairs for a bottle and when he got back up there she heard him yell at the baby, TAKE IT. TAKE THE DAMN BOTTLE. Ironically I heard him say a couple weeks ago when his other two children were over, he had to chase away a neighbor kid because he didn't want people cursing around his children.

Don't even get me started on his drinking. Now don't get me wrong, I like to have a drink every now and then. Tammy_Tyree and I have thrown back a few together. But I don't get people just sitting around alone drinking, Or people that have to drink every day. Wouldn't that make a person an alcoholic? If they drink all the time, alone or not, hiding alcohol and such around. Tammy_Tyree just turned 21 last month so my boyfriend bought her a bottle of Sky Vodka. She put it in my freezer, unopened. We were going to have a couple of cocktails one night, and the bottle was gone. I knew it was there the day before. Who drinks an entire bottle of vodka in one night? Just one person, not a party of people. It was the loser and my sister covered for him. Truth be told I would have went off on her. He isn't supposed to be drinking, I'm scared of what my happen if he is drinking, he's an angry drunk with a criminal record. Now all it is , is drunk driving, but he has gotten belligerent before, bar fights and criminal mischief. This house belongs to my parents, my Dad said he didn't want him drinking. If he did, he'd be on the street.

I just don't get it, I've reflected on my upbringing, we have the same parents, we should have learned the same values, but I guess we each interpreted it differently.
But looking back on my boyfriends once again, not a single one is or was a loser at any time. Some of them might not have treated me the way I thought I deserved to be treated but I repaid that in kind. I don't hold anything against them, and I feel justified in dating everyone of them, because all of them are worthwhile, intelligent people.

I was hoping maybe someone could explain, I don't get it.